All about Self-esteem by Teru Nakashima, Japan
Teru Nakashima: A Pioneer in Self-Esteem Psychology
# Teru Nakashima: Leading Voice in Self-Esteem Psychology
Teru Nakashima is a prominent Japanese psychological counselor, author, and public speaker who developed "Natural Psychology," an approach to enhancing self-acceptance and transforming lives. After overcoming severe personal struggles, including a decade as a hikikomori (social recluse) and multiple suicide attempts, he independently studied psychology and therapy, developing methods that led to his own recovery and eventually helping others.
## Core Theory and Methodology
Nakashima's theory of self-acceptance centers on six fundamental elements:
- Sense of Existence: Feeling one's life has value
- Sense of Competence: Believing in one's abilities
- Sense of Belonging: Feeling accepted in society
- Sense of Security: Having a safe space
- Self-Trust: Being reliable and dependable
- Self-Esteem: Recognizing one's inherent worth
His methodology follows three key steps:
1. Self-Recognition: Acknowledging all aspects of oneself
2. Self-Acceptance: Embracing one's complete self
3. Self-Affirmation: Recognizing one's inherent value
## Impact and Work
Nakashima has authored several bestselling books, including "Three Steps to Enhance Self-Acceptance" and "How to Love Yourself." He conducts training sessions nationwide for corporations, educational institutions, and hospitals. His YouTube channel and daily newsletter provide practical guidance on self-acceptance and personal growth.
His unique contribution includes the concept of "mental brakes" - unconscious blocks formed from past trauma and negative thought patterns. He teaches that true self-acceptance isn't about forced positivity but embracing one's authentic self completely. Nakashima also introduces "fudoshin" (immovable mind) as the ultimate state of self-acceptance - maintaining inner stability regardless of external circumstances.
His work particularly resonates in Japanese society, where issues of self-worth and social pressure are prevalent. Through seminars, books, digital content, and counseling sessions, Nakashima continues to provide hope and practical guidance to those struggling with self-acceptance, while his principles are increasingly applied in organizational development to improve workplace relationships and employee well-being.
All about Self-esteem by Teru Nakashima, Japan
Words Matter: The Secret Life of Your Self-Talk
Transformative language can lead to empowering shifts in self-esteem, and this episode dives deep into how habitual phrases play a pivotal role in shaping our inner narrative. Discover the enchanting power of the words we use daily as they influence our perception of ourselves and our potential. From common expressions that undermine our self-worth to uplifting affirmations that promote self-efficacy, we reveal how a few simple changes in our language can pave the way for a more positive self-image.
The episode outlines practical steps for listeners looking to enhance their self-talk. We encourage reflecting on the habitual phrases we each use, noting which lean negative and identifying positive alternatives. This re-structuring of our verbal habits can cultivate a kinder, more supportive mindset, leading to improved self-regard over time. As we delve into personal stories, research findings, and actionable advice, listeners will find relatable insights to initiate their journey toward healthier self-dialogue.
Join us in this enlightening conversation about the profound and often underestimated impact of words. Together, let’s cultivate a language that nourishes our aspirations and fuels our confidence. Ready to change your phrases and, in turn, your life? Listen now, and don’t forget to share your experiences with the hashtag #phrasechange!
Teru Nakashima, All about Self-esteem
How your Habitual Phrases Shape your Self-Esteem. Hello everyone, this is Teru Nakashima from the Self-Esteem Academy. Thank you for joining me today. I'd like to talk with you about something that might seem small but has enormous power the habitual phrases we use every day. You know those expressions that naturally roll off your tongue without much thought. Well, these phrases are actually shaping your self-esteem in ways you might not realize the True Power of Habitual Phrases.
Speaker 1:Many of us think of habitual phrases as those little things we mutter to ourselves when we're alone, and yes, that's one form they take. But the true magic of habitual phrases reveals itself in our conversations with others, for instance, when a friend shares an idea and you instinctively respond with that's brilliant. Or when someone is heartbroken and you find yourself saying you'll find someone even better. These phrases, when used consistently, not only enhance your relationships but also and here's the fascinating part they begin to transform your own inner landscape. I remember working with a group recently where I asked participants to notice what phrases they commonly use. One gentleman realized that his go-to expressions were often I probably can't, or that might be too difficult, when he consciously shifted to let's give it a try, and I might be able to do this. After just two weeks he noticed people responding to him differently. The change was remarkable. The magic of I know. One of my favorite habitual phrases is simply I know. This phrase has almost magical properties.
Speaker 1:When you're facing something frightening or uncertain, try saying out loud yes, I know, I know this is scary. Something wonderful happens. Your body begins to relax. I recently met a five-year-old boy who was terrified of getting a shot. He was crying and struggling. I gently said to him I know, I know. You know that shots pinch a bit, don't you? I kept acknowledging his fear this way and gradually he calmed down. Afterward he looked up at me and said that didn't hurt as much as I thought. Why does this work? When you say I know, you're creating a sense that you have some control over the situation. Much of our anxiety stems from uncertainty, from not knowing. By declaring I know, you reduce that uncertainty, which helps your mind find balance. Try it yourself. When you're about to face a challenge, when you're afraid or when you're stepping into something new, say yes, I know, I'm feeling anxious. Everything becomes something I know equals something I can handle, allowing you to respond with greater clarity.
Speaker 1:Phrases that build self-efficacy Phrases. Now let's explore specific phrases that build what psychologists call self-efficacy, that powerful sense that I can do this. I've found three magical phrases that work wonders. The first is I can do this. The second is everything is going to work out well today. And the third is simply I can, I can, I can. I know this might feel a bit uncomfortable at first. Try saying these phrases aloud when you wake up in the morning and again before you go to sleep. You might feel self-conscious initially I certainly did. But as you continue, these phrases naturally become part of your mental landscape. A business executive I worked with started repeating I can, I can, I can before important presentations. He was amazed to discover that his presentation skills genuinely improved.
Speaker 1:The power of words is truly remarkable. The relationship between habitual phrases and self-esteem. Our research has shown that consciously changing your habitual phrases particularly enhances three components of self-esteem self-efficacy, self-reliance and self-determination. Using the tree metaphor I often share your habitual phrases nurture the branches self-efficacy which in turn support the growth of leaves self-reliance and eventually the flowers self-determination. These small, consistent verbal patterns help your entire tree flourish. What's especially important is speaking to yourself with the same kindness you offer others. Have you noticed how we can easily say you'll be fine to a friend, but then tell ourselves I'm such a failure. There's a profound disconnect there. Starting today, try speaking to yourself with the same compassion you would offer a dear friend. You did your best, it's okay. You'll do better next time.
Speaker 1:Practical Steps Let me share some concrete steps for transforming your habitual phrases. First, spend a week simply observing the phrases you use regularly. Recording them in a Notes app works wonderfully. Next, identify the negative phrases and thoughtfully replace them with positive alternatives. For example, this is impossible becomes let me explore how to approach this. I'm exhausted becomes. I'll take a moment to recharge and then continue. Then practice using these new phrases intentionally. When you wake up, when you look in the mirror, when you encounter a challenge, voice your new phrase aloud. Finally, tell friends or family members about what you're doing. Say I'm practicing changing my habitual phrases right now. They'll likely support your efforts and might even join you.
Speaker 1:Closing Thoughts Changing your habitual phrases might feel strange at first, but as you continue it becomes natural and, more importantly, you'll begin to notice shifts in how you perceive yourself and your capabilities. I use the phrase I can, I can, I can to find the courage to start this podcast. Initially I was quite nervous, but now I genuinely look forward to these conversations with you. Why not begin your journey of transforming your habitual phrases today? These small changes gradually create profound transformations in your life. Thank you for listening. If you notice changes in yourself, please share them on social media with the hashtag number phrase change. I'm eager to hear about your experiences Until next time. This is Teru Nakashima. Thank you, and I'm grateful for your presence.
Speaker 2:The Relationship Between Habitual Phrases and Self-Esteem. Our research has shown that consciously changing your habitual phrases particularly enhances three components of self-esteem Self-efficacy, self-reliance and self-determination. Using the tree metaphor I often share, your habitual phrases nurture the branches self-efficacy which in turn support the growth of leaves self-reliance and eventually the flowers self-determination. These small, consistent verbal patterns help your entire tree flourish. What's especially important is speaking to yourself with the same kindness you offer others. Have you noticed how we can easily say you'll be fine to a friend but then tell ourselves I'm such a failure. There's a profound disconnect there. Starting today, try speaking to yourself with the same compassion you would offer a dear friend. You did your best, it's okay. You'll do better next time. Practical steps Let me share some concrete steps for transforming your habitual phrases. First, spend a week simply observing the phrases you use regularly. Recording them in a notes app works wonderfully. Next, identify the negative phrases and thoughtfully replace them with positive alternatives. For example, this is impossible becomes. Let me explore how to approach this. I'm exhausted, becomes. I'll take a moment to recharge and then continue. Then practice using these new phrases intentionally. When you wake up, when you look in the mirror, when you encounter a challenge, voice your new phrase aloud. Finally, tell friends or family members about what you're doing. Say I'm practicing changing my habitual phrases right now. They'll likely support your efforts and might even join you. Closing thoughts.
Speaker 2:Changing your habitual phrases might feel strange at first, but as you continue it becomes natural and, more importantly, you'll begin to notice shifts in how you perceive yourself and your capabilities. I use the phrase I can I can, I can to find the courage to start this podcast. Initially I was quite nervous, but now I genuinely look forward to these conversations with you. Why not begin your journey of transforming your habitual phrases today? These small changes gradually create profound transformations in your life. Thank you for listening. If you notice changes in yourself, please share them on social media with the hashtag number phrase change. I'm eager to hear about your experiences Until next time. This is Teru Nakashima. Thank you, and I'm grateful for your presence.
