All about Self-esteem by Teru Nakashima, Japan
Teru Nakashima: A Pioneer in Self-Esteem Psychology
# Teru Nakashima: Leading Voice in Self-Esteem Psychology
Teru Nakashima is a prominent Japanese psychological counselor, author, and public speaker who developed "Natural Psychology," an approach to enhancing self-acceptance and transforming lives. After overcoming severe personal struggles, including a decade as a hikikomori (social recluse) and multiple suicide attempts, he independently studied psychology and therapy, developing methods that led to his own recovery and eventually helping others.
## Core Theory and Methodology
Nakashima's theory of self-acceptance centers on six fundamental elements:
- Sense of Existence: Feeling one's life has value
- Sense of Competence: Believing in one's abilities
- Sense of Belonging: Feeling accepted in society
- Sense of Security: Having a safe space
- Self-Trust: Being reliable and dependable
- Self-Esteem: Recognizing one's inherent worth
His methodology follows three key steps:
1. Self-Recognition: Acknowledging all aspects of oneself
2. Self-Acceptance: Embracing one's complete self
3. Self-Affirmation: Recognizing one's inherent value
## Impact and Work
Nakashima has authored several bestselling books, including "Three Steps to Enhance Self-Acceptance" and "How to Love Yourself." He conducts training sessions nationwide for corporations, educational institutions, and hospitals. His YouTube channel and daily newsletter provide practical guidance on self-acceptance and personal growth.
His unique contribution includes the concept of "mental brakes" - unconscious blocks formed from past trauma and negative thought patterns. He teaches that true self-acceptance isn't about forced positivity but embracing one's authentic self completely. Nakashima also introduces "fudoshin" (immovable mind) as the ultimate state of self-acceptance - maintaining inner stability regardless of external circumstances.
His work particularly resonates in Japanese society, where issues of self-worth and social pressure are prevalent. Through seminars, books, digital content, and counseling sessions, Nakashima continues to provide hope and practical guidance to those struggling with self-acceptance, while his principles are increasingly applied in organizational development to improve workplace relationships and employee well-being.
All about Self-esteem by Teru Nakashima, Japan
Why Alone Time Is Essential for Your Self-Esteem
Discover why alone time is crucial for personal growth and self-esteem. Teru Nakashima unveils how solitude fosters creativity and self-discovery, offering practical guidance for incorporating this essential practice into everyday life.
• Explains the concept of solitude and its value
• Discusses scientific research on the benefits of alone time
• Provides practical tips for effectively utilizing alone time
• Shares personal stories and examples of successful solitude practices
Teru Nakashima, All about Self-esteem
The Power of Solitude Enriching your Life Through Alone Time. Introduction. Hello everyone, this is Teru Nakashima from Self-Esteem Academy. Today I want to talk about something incredibly important the power of alone time.
Speaker 1:In our modern society, we're constantly connected with others and many people have developed what we might call solitude phobia, a fear of being alone. But you know what Quality alone time is actually the key to nurturing self-esteem, enhancing creativity and bringing stability to your mind and heart. Why do we need alone time? From a neuroscience perspective, when our brain continuously responds to external stimuli, it gets tired, really tired. Research from Harvard University shows that having at least 20 minutes of quiet time each day activates a region of the brain called the Default Mode Network, dmn. This is fascinating because this network plays a crucial role in creativity, self-awareness and memory organization.
Speaker 1:From a psychological perspective, the psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi studied what he called the flow state and discovered that deep concentration and self-reflection create an optimal mental state. In Jungian psychology, they describe the journey inward. Through alone time we can actually dialogue with our unconscious mind. Isn't that amazing Connection to the six elements of self-esteem? Alone time especially strengthens these elements 1. Self-acceptance the trunk time to face yourself and accept who you truly are 2. Self-reliance beliefs learning to listen to your inner voice and trust your own judgment. 3. Self-determination the flowers experiencing making choices based on your own will, without external influences.
Speaker 1:The ideal quantity and quality of alone time. The ideal quantity and quality of alone time. About quantity research suggests having at least 30 minutes, ideally 1 to 2 hours, of quality alone time each day. But here's the good news you don't need to take it all at once. You can distribute it throughout your day maybe 15 minutes in the morning, 10 minutes at noon and 20 minutes in the evening. That works too. About quality Just being alone and having quality alone time are completely different things. Spending time absorbed in your smartphone or social media isn't true alone time. The ideal alone time minimizes external stimulation and directs your consciousness inward.
Speaker 1:Practical examples of alone time 1. Morning Meditation 15 minutes, waking up with the sunrise, sitting by the window, taking deep breaths and setting intentions for the day. 2. Walking in Nature 30 to 60 minutes, walking without electronic devices, focusing your awareness on natural sounds and scenery. 3. Journaling 15 to 20 minutes, writing out your thoughts and feelings without limitation, deepening your self-dialogue. 4. Creative activities variable time, drawing, playing an instrument, cooking anything that brings you into a flow state. 5. Bath time 20 to 30 minutes Soaking in the bathtub while reflecting on your daily experiences. 6. Reading before bed 20 to 30 minutes Reading a physical book, not a screen, allowing your imagination to work. 7. Periodic solo trips 1 to 3 days, facing yourself in a new environment, gaining perspective away from daily life.
Speaker 1:Practical advice for securing alone time 1. Incorporate it into your schedule Just like other appointments. Clearly mark alone time in your calendar. 2. Establish boundaries. Let your family and colleagues know you don't want to be interrupted during this time. 3. Digital detox Turn off notifications and develop the habit of staying away from devices during specific times. 4. Start small. Don't try to take long periods right away. Start with just five minutes and gradually extend it. Practice saying no. Recognize that you don't need to accept every invitation or request.
Speaker 1:How to handle difficulties in finding alone time? In finding alone time For busy executives or working parents. Securing substantial alone time might be challenging In such cases. 1. Utilize gap time Consciously. Use small gaps in your day, like commuting time or lunch breaks. 2. Develop an early rising habit. Use the quiet morning time before your family wakes up for yourself. Train yourself to be fully conscious during daily activities brushing teeth, eating, walking. Conclusion the cycle of alone time and self-esteem. Having quality alone time strengthens the foundation of self-esteem the six elements and as your self-esteem improves, the quality of your alone time also improves. Creating a positive cycle proves creating a positive cycle. If we use the tree metaphor, alone time is like the quiet time a tree needs to absorb nutrients and grow. By valuing this time, your tree will grow stronger and more beautiful. From today, try incorporating quality alone time into your life. You'll soon feel how these small changes eventually enrich your entire life. Let's meet again next time. This is Teru Nakashima. Thank you for listening.
